Why Knot.....The Rule Book..???

I do have abstract, unconventional yet strong line of thoughts on Marriage & Infidelity issue. This topic discussion started this morning and I thought I need to pen down my views.

When 2 people decide to marry, they dream of a world together and do not wish to have things go wrong at any stage. Point is when you have tied the knot and are not happy. Ideally, you realised, you go separate..Simple, isn't it??  But we know it – It isn’t because it involves other lives...!!! Marriage may not be successful because of reasons other than infidelity. At the same time, infidelity can happen other than the reason of deceiving your partner as a mere ‘fun’ element. We need to understand, down the lane, we all change, our priorities change, our perceptions change but the quest is – Will the relation stay going through all of it? Marriage is a commitment zone but this relation is no good when forced upon ourselves.

I completely discard ‘infidelity’as a man or woman issue. We, by ourselves, gave or assumed that it is okay for men to go out at any stage. But when it comes to woman, no lenience expected. Also it is wrong to define‘infidelity’with the character of a person. As we say, do not judge as you haven’t walked the path. I believe, Infidelity may not happen in a relation who is not even bound legally because it is shielded by certain elements. We should be educated more on the word ‘Relationship’ rather than the word‘Marriage’ as ideally marriage should blossom out of relationship.

So, without second thoughts;  Friendship, Trust, Loyalty matters but it ‘Only Stays’when the relationship is continuously nurtured with the same intensity of “Love, Care, Respect & Understanding”. If that doesn’t happen than irrespective of what culture we belong to, we are emotional souls and we have a ‘heart’ so it would hurt..and then whatever may be the result, it will not be a pleasant one.

So for me - Marriage is not meant to be ‘Have to be done’ concept; it has been created for our own good so rather than “Entering in it with a Rule Book”, it should be regarded as something that give your life a new beautiful meaning  where there is no space for the word ‘Infidelity’..!!!